I did not enjoy dating.\u00a0 It was not fun to figure out who liked me, who didn\u2019t, how did the date go, should I call them, should they call me, how long should I wait, the anxiety of rejection\u2026\u2026the list goes on.\u00a0 My husband and I knew each other for years and although we did not start dating right away, things worked out. I met the love of my life, we have a great family and things are good.\u00a0 I\u2019ve said it repeatedly, \u201cI am so happy I never have to go through the nonsense of dating again.\u201d<\/p>\n
Until recently\u2026..no, I did not get a divorce and start looking again.\u00a0 I found a new job and the process IS JUST LIKE DATING.\u00a0 It starts with sending your CV out to a bunch of chairs.\u00a0 Then you wait\u2026..and wait\u2026.and wait.\u00a0 You start to wonder, \u201cDid they get it? What if something happened and the email didn\u2019t go through? Should I send it again?\u201d And you basically sit in high anxiety mode until you hear back from someone. I never did the online dating thing but can\u2019t help but wonder if this waiting period is similar to people responding to your profile.<\/p>\n
You then start to get some interested parties responding to your CV and think, \u201cMaybe this one will work out.\u201d It\u2019s a very eager and exciting feeling.\u00a0 You find at moments you daydream about making more money, having better hours and wonder what will it be like to be part of your potential new group.\u00a0 Some of the daydreams are completely far fetched but it is a fun little fantasy period. I distinctly recall this fantasy phase when dating.<\/p>\n
Then you get interviews.\u00a0 It\u2019s so exciting because, \u201cYay,\u00a0 I have an interview!\u201d And then suddenly you think, \u201cOh God. I\u2019m going to vomit. I have an interview.\u201d This is your first date and it is stressful. You want to make a great first impression and back up your CV (online dating profile for the purpose of this post).\u00a0 You want to be yourself BUT not overly revealing.\u00a0 You don\u2019t want to appear nervous BUT don\u2019t want to be too relaxed either.\u00a0 You want to make sure you wear appropriate attire and try on about 1000 different outfits until you find the right one. I can honestly reveal that I did not sleep one wink the night before each interview secondary to anxiety.<\/p>\n
Then the interview day arrives. Some are not so great and you consider these places your safety blankets just in case something goes wrong. \u00a0Your back up date in the event the one you were hoping for doesn\u2019t work out. Other interviews are great.\u00a0 You are oozing with enthusiasm and then think, \u201cWhen do I reach out to thank them? How long should I wait? A day? Two days? I don\u2019t want to seem too eager but I want them to know that I am interested. \u00a0How do I do this without being too aggressive? I need to keep my cool.\u00a0 Is it ok to send an email? Should I call?\u201d \u00a0aka, the classic post date questions of time to wait until contact.<\/p>\n
At times the interview appeared to have gone very well. Your references were called and immediately called you stating they think said chair is very interested in you. Then suddenly you get an email stating how great you are but unfortunately, there are no open spots at the present time. This is the dating equivalent of the \u201cIt\u2019s not you, it\u2019s me\u201d rejection and it sucks just as badly when looking for a job.\u00a0 \u00a0Other times, you are given a window of when you will hear back and when the window has passed without a word, the panic strikes especially if it is somewhere you really liked.\u00a0 You ask the questions, \u201cMaybe they forgot, should I reach out to them? Will I seem desperate? Did they give the job to someone else?!\u201d The thoughts really are killer.<\/p>\n
You question whether you should have entered this process at all.\u00a0 Life was fine. Sure there were a bunch of things you were unhappy about but you got paid well, you had a fair schedule, you knew all the consultants.\u00a0 You knew in order to grow and be happy you had to leave but now look what happened.\u00a0 You left your comfort zone and exchanged it with repeated rejections.<\/p>\n
And then it happens.\u00a0 You find your new job.\u00a0 Is it perfect? No. It is not perfect just like the person you plan to spend the rest of your life with is not perfect. \u00a0Nothing and no one is perfect. But you really like all the good aspects of it.\u00a0 The negatives, well, they are not that bad and worth it because everything else is so good.<\/p>\n
The next time you step out of your comfort zone and decide it\u2019s time for a new job, keep in mind that it is just like dating. If you enjoyed dating, then you will be in your zone.\u00a0 I am happy for you and wish you the best. For all other normal people, the process sucks but in the end it will be worth it.\u00a0 Stay strong.\u00a0 Stay optimistic.\u00a0 Feel free to call me if you need to ugly cry.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
I did not enjoy dating.\u00a0 It was not fun to figure out who liked me, who didn\u2019t, how did the date go, should I call them, should they call me, how long should I wait, the anxiety of rejection\u2026\u2026the list…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":92,"featured_media":10487,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_mi_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"jetpack_publicize_message":"Getting a new job is like dating and it sucks, just ask @akkalantari and read her post here.","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false}}},"categories":[1,4],"tags":[502,421,501],"coauthors":[325],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n